Personality Themes

Photo by  Matthew T Rader  on  Unsplash In today's world of mechanical life, as a way to vent out their emotions or to 'forget their problems', people resolve to things that give them immediate relief, without thinking about their harmful effects in the long run. Usually they are attracted to tobacco, alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling, and the like. Very soon, they realize how such pleasurable things can damage their physical and mental health severely; but by that time, they would have already been in the tight clutches of their addiction. Even if they want, they cannot stop using such substances or behaviors; the addiction has enslaved them. Nevertheless, overcoming any addiction should not be difficult for a determined mind. Where there is a will, there is a way. Understanding the science of addiction can help us to address the problem at the root level and overcome it easily. Today, there are many tested and proven scientific ways of overcoming addic...

Photo by  Lauren McConachie  on  Unsplash Being too agreeable can tax your mental health. If you are habituated to be overly nice to others because you want people to like you and know that you are a good person, it would ultimately put you in the soup. If you usually try to please everyone and put others first by suppressing your views, concerns, and rights, then you are likely to end up suffering stress, resentment and depression. It only spoils the relationships sooner or later. Hence, the key to building meaningful relationships with others is to value your own views, concerns, and rights as much as you do with theirs. The problems with being too agreeable: In reality, the world is filled with all sorts of people. If you are too open, some people take advantage of it and try to manipulate you without respecting your wish and will. They project themselves to be better than you and try to gain the upper hand, thereby diminishing your identity. You may u...

Even though we are well organized and have a commitment to follow our work schedule, sometimes we may delay our work by spending significant amount of time on trivial things such as watching TV or browsing web or exploring social media. If this becomes a habit and causes regular delays in our work, it is procrastination. Whether it is putting off our work-related responsibilities or household responsibilities, procrastination can affect our job or our life. How procrastination affects Gradually procrastination becomes a part of our lifestyle. We not only delay simple tasks like household chores, organizing the office table, or servicing vehicle, we also start delaying most important things like critical health checkups, filing income tax returns, or major work assignments. Habitually we postpone important things until they become very urgent, and then try doing it in hurry, which leads to stress. Such a stress can affect the quality of work on hand as well as our mental he...

Photo by  Fares Hamouche  on  Unsplash Controlling the mind is like catching air with your hand. When we like to be rational, the mind plays the game of emotions. When we want to tread the path of righteousness, it makes us impulsively commit the wrong. When you want to rise up to the higher standards, it is attached to the inferior modes. In spite of all these, you can control your mind and be calm, composed, and happy. The way to achieve this is to make friends with your mind. Take time to know your mind better. Learn to communicate with your mind. Slowly convince your mind on what is good to you in the long term. Persuade the mind on how remaining steadfast on the path of principles could make your life worthwhile. Your mind is the key that locks you up in problems when it turns towards negativity. The same key, your mind, can free you from problems when it turns towards positivity. Hence your own mind can be your worst enemy if it lowers you. The same...

Photo by  Agung Raharja  on  Unsplash Want a lot of energy? Look into your mind; your mind is a powerhouse. Modern quantum physics finds the thoughts emanating from your mind to be vibrations of energy. Surprisingly, many of the ancient civilizations have asserted this some thousands of years back. Every moment multiple thoughts originate in your mind, but you do not realize their power because those thoughts are scattered and only get dissipated. If you really want to harness those great energy forms, you need to learn to focus them on a single object such as a work or a problem or an aim. You know, light loses energy when the rays are scattered, but becomes strong when focused like in the case of a laser beam. Focused light is a common analogy to understand focused mind. The power of mind comes from the pointedness of attention without distraction. An alternative word to focusing is ‘concentration of mind’. Photo by  Alireza Sahebi  on  Unspla...

Photo by  Jana Sabeth Schultz  on  Unsplash Do you recall a time when you had an argument or debate with someone and you ended up in frustration because of the wide difference of opinion you felt? Such an experience is bound to happen in everyone's life. Read the parable below which throws some light on the phenomenon. Two horses were grazing on a field. Suddenly the first horse picked up an argument with the second horse about a blade of grass that stood between them. The first horse said that the grass was brown in color. The second horse did not agree to this and contested that it was rather yellow in color. The situation slowly turned into debate and then into a fight. Photo by  Claire Nolan  on  Unsplash You will laugh on knowing the reality. The first horse only had to take a step forward and look at the other side of the grass to know it was actually yellow. The grass was brown on one side and yellow on the other. Hence the two h...

Photo by  Sian Cooper  on  Unsplash Once, an ant compared itself with an elephant to find itself too small and got into worry. His friend pointed out the real strengths in the ant, "You may be small in one aspect, but you are incomparably big in many: you are purpose-driven, excellent team-player, service-minded, and hard worker. You are one and only of your kind in God's creation!" Thus, the ant became happy again and sang, "I am not small; I am different...I am unique... I am special." Many times we get into the habit of comparing ourselves with others in terms of material possessions, lifestyle, or success. It only leads to unhappiness and affect our confidence upon finding ourselves lacking. Sometimes we may even feel depressed, discontented, jealous, or hateful. The actual problem lies in our way of thinking. If we revisit out thoughts, we can easily solve the problem. Here are a few ways of overcoming the habit of comparing and the associ...